Carolyn Hax: A potential tiger mom wants to change her stripes

A potential tiger mom wants to change her stripes

Dear Carolyn: I don't want to be that mother. You know, the kind inappropriately invested in her kid winning, achieving, etc. But I have those tendencies, because I think I was raised that way myself.

How do I make sure my child lives up to her potential without hounding her to distraction? She is a smart, ambitious child. She has friends and interests. She knows how to stand up for herself. She is a feisty 12-year-old. But she still needs guidance, and I struggle on how to balance it.

— The Tiger Mother in Me